Recently I was leading an action learning set where one member was missing the advice of a mature and experienced spiritual director. He thought that if he had a good spiritual director then that might help solve his problems. I asked him what advice the perfect spiritual director would give him and after a pause he told the group. He already knew!
As a non directive life coach I do the same thing with my clients (people secretly prefer their own answers to their questions anyway). Often when I’m asked a direct question I will mirror that question back and 99 times out of 100 the client will really know the answer. Try this yourself when someone asks you for advice: answer back ‘what do you think’, they will say, ‘I don’t know’, you then say ‘what would the answer be if you did know’? You’ll be surprised at how many people already know.
Next time you face a creative challenge or a problem you don’t know how to solve, get it into a clear and concise question and ask yourself one or more of the following and brain storm the answers onto notepaper. Try and choose the most ridiculous.